Life’s every phase is not the same. There are days when everything happens as per your desires, and then there are also days when nothing goes as per your wish!
If that happens to you, you are no different. Life tends to play a game of its own. Some phases make you feel ashamed of yourself, which you need to come out of!
“If you put shame in a petri dish, it needs three ingredients to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence, and judgement. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive.”
~Brené Brown
At some point, we all do unwell in life, and that leads to feeling stupid, worthless, terrible, and sometimes, even disgusting about ourselves. But, hold on, is it right to feel that about yourself, judge yourself, and throw remarks on your performance?
Emotional security is such an important life chapter. Many of us are not secure with our emotional mind, body, nerves and everything that makes up for our own significant self. A lot of times, while trying to hide the emotional distress, we try propelling ourselves into several different ways to run away from the situation.
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
– Laozi
Amidst all these, how do you conquer the feeling of regression about your own self?
Talk about your emotions to ones who understand
The more you share, the lighter you feel! Talk about how you feel to someone who would not judge, but understand you. And, if you don’t find anyone, then come to yourself. Talk to yourself about everything you don’t feel right about.
Accept life and everything that already happened.
There’s no point in giving any more justifications to anybody else, not even to yourself! You did what you could do; just accept it knowing that there’s something better waiting for you! The first step towards moving on is to shed the past, which happens only with acceptance.
Be kind to yourself
Rather than looking at yourself as a failure, look at yourself as someone who did the work, had no grudges, and is ready to bounce back. That is how you become kind to yourself.
It’s time you set new targets.
After all that, it is time to set yourself up for a new journey. Convince yourself to start fresh with more vigour, power, and energy. Set newer and better goals for yourself, implementing past learnt lessons.
“If you don’t give your mind and body a break, you’ll break. Stop pushing yourself through pain and exhaustion and take care of your needs.”
~Lori Deschene
